The Most Common Questions Couples Have

I/We Just Want To Be With Another Woman, Is That OK?
There are many couples in which the wife wants to play with another woman..... And just have the husbands watch. It depends on what the other people's rules and interest are. There are many single Bi-females that are seeking to play with couples or just the wife. The most important thing is to be upfront and honest with the people you meet so that you do not lead people on. For the most part, lifestylers are very understanding.

Don't You Ever Get Jealous?
There is nothing to be jealous about. No one in the lifestyle is looking to fall in love or for someone to replace their mate. Swinging is primarily a "Couples Activity" and something done together....as a couple. It might take a while to completely "get it" and understand that when couples are playing with other people, there are no emotions or romantic feelings involved.... Its just a moment of exciting physical fun... Then the moment is over. Bringing another person into your sexual play for your enjoyment is not much different than bringing a vibrator to bed with you to enhance your sexual pleasure. You are not in love with the vibrator, you are not jealous of the vibrator and there is nothing to be jealous of when including another person or couple into you sexual play. It's sexual recreation, it's just for fun... It's just sex... nothing more.... nothing serious.

How Do You Meet People In A Couples Swinger Club?
Close EncountersTM has a very social atmosphere. Everyone is very friendly. For a first time visitor it may appear to be a little cliquish.... But that is only because there are many regulars and they know each other and have become great friends. You'll soon dicover that no one is ever precluded and everyone is always welcome to meet and join a group of people as Members are always excited to meet new visitors. It's like going to a club when you were single, you just need to be a little social. Sometimes you meet people on the dance floor. A special look, a wink or a smile... Or even a soft brush often begins a conversation. It's easier to make friends and meet new people at Close Encounters because you know that everyone has at least on thing in common... We're all sexual pioneers and explorers!

My Husband Won't Feel Comfortable With Another Man Approaching Me... How Do I Handle That?
The rule in the lifestyle is that the women make the rules. One of the best parts about going to Close EncoutnersTM is that, unlike straight clubs. Close EncountersTM is not a "meat market" The members mostly move around as couples and are not aggressive. They are open and honest in their introductions to you so you won't hear any silly pickup lines at Close EncountersTM because people are looking for new friends, not trying to hustle you. Let the ladies take the lead, most couples are turned off when the man is the more aggressive one of the couple. You will learn a lot by just observing.

Will We Feel Pressured Into Doing Anything?
Remember the golden rule in the clubs is that "NO MEANS NO". Before you go, it is important to communicate with each other. Have a clear understanding of what you want to do... And what you don't want to do. It is very important to set your ground rules for yourselves so no one is put on the spot if a situation comes up. TAKE BABY STEPS.... There is no hurry, you have a whole lifetime of fun ahead of you!

We Are Not Fat But We Are Not Super-Models Either, Will We Feel Comfortable?
There are people of every size, shape, religion, and color who are in the lifestyle. Everyone has their own definition of what they are attracted to. This is all about physical attraction and chemistry. There are many people who you might become best friends with but with whom you will never have a physical relationship. But even people who think they will never find another couple with similar interest and attractions, end up meeting people they have a lot in common with. And remember that just because a couple is friendly to you, doesn't nessarily mean that they want to have intercourse with you... So relax and have fun... They're just being friendly and making new friends!

Has Being In The Lifestyle Affected Your Marriage?
Of all couples you speak with, 99% will tell you that the lifestyle has definitely made their relationship more exciting and has brought the couples much closer together. It should not be considered "therapy" and if you don't have a strong foundation it can lead to difficult situations. Most couples become a lot more aware of their physical pleasures and are more attentive to each other's desires and stop taking each other for granted when they see how desirable everyone finds their mate. Married life is a lot easier when you are having fun, no matter what pressures you face each day!

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